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Do you ever feel ashamed when you get angry?
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I'm not completely ashamed when I'm angry. It depends on what I'm angry about. If there is a reason and some of my interests or others are damaged, I will not be ashamed to be angry, because it is someone else's fault and I have reason to be angry. On the other hand, if I am angry at a certain moment only by virtue of my own good or bad mood, I will not feel ashamed when I am in the mood, but I will feel ashamed when my mood or mood gradually fades away and feel sorry for my behavior.

Therefore, whether you are ashamed when you are angry or not, you can only look at the situation and other factors at that time.

Answered: Feb 14

For me, anger does sometimes evoke a sense of shame.

I recall an instance during a work meeting where everyone was engaged in a heated debate over a project proposal.

I was fully convinced that my plan was well - considered and practical. However, when I heard colleagues raise doubts and objections, a surge of anger welled up inside me like a broken dam.

I vehemently countered, my words becoming increasingly sharp, completely disregarding the setting and the feelings of others. At that moment, it was as if anger had blinded me, and all I could think about was proving that I was right.

Yet, as the meeting ended and the tide of anger gradually subsided, rationality returned to my mind, and a wave of shame engulfed me.

I began to reflect on my behavior, realizing how inappropriate it was to lose my temper so badly in the meeting. I not only disrupted the originally harmonious work atmosphere but also might have left a negative impression on my colleagues.

I felt ashamed of my impulsiveness and lack of emotional management skills, as if I had become a slave to my emotions, easily swayed by anger.

This sense of shame doesn't just stem from the impact on others; it also arises from an introspection of my own inner self. I am well - aware that anger is a normal emotion, and everyone gets angry at times.

But the key lies in how we handle this emotion. When I am unable to control my anger and let it run wild, I go against the principles of rationality and composure that I have always held dear in my heart.

I am ashamed of not being the master of my emotions and failing to maintain the proper demeanor and cultivation in the face of anger.
But I also understand that shame is not entirely a bad thing.

It acts like a mirror, allowing me to clearly see my shortcomings and areas that need improvement. Every time shame arises after an outburst of anger, it is an opportunity for growth.

It urges me to learn methods of emotional management and to cultivate patience and tolerance. I have started trying to take a few deep breaths and give myself some time to calm down when anger is about to erupt, expressing my opinions and feelings in a more rational way.

Of course, not every instance of anger leads to shame. Sometimes, when anger stems from upholding justice or fighting against unfairness, I actually feel a sense of tranquility and determination.

In such cases, anger becomes a force that drives me to strive for the rights that I or others deserve. I don't feel ashamed of this kind of anger because I know I am doing the right thing.

Anger and shame, these two seemingly contradictory emotions, intertwine in my life. Anger allows me to experience the intense fluctuations of emotions, while shame makes me reflect and grow after an angry episode.

They are both part of my inner world, jointly shaping my attitude towards life and my self - perception.

In the days to come, I hope to be better at harnessing my anger and using shame as a driving force for progress, facing the various challenges in life with a more mature and rational attitude.

Answered: April 16

There is no doubt that being unreasonably angry with others is shameful. Nonetheless, if someone provoke  us  in a  bad manner,in my own opinion,expressing your anger is certainly a reasonable and appropriate way to protect yourself, which could sometimes benefit both your emotion and relationship in some degree.That's my glance from a corner.

Answered: Feb 11

Yes

Answered: Feb 17

I think everyone will face some unhappy things when they are angry, and there is no need to feel ashamed. This is a normal emotional release for humans. Being angry can relieve people's stress. Being happy and joyful is something that everyone must experience. But people should still be happier, not always angry. Being happy at a young age can make people live longer. If one loves to be angry every day, their body will be unhealthy. Health is the greatest wealth of a person, so we should still be happier, less angry, and more happy.

Answered: Feb 13

Yes, sometimes it is shameful!Because I am a hot tempered person,maybe i will be angry and lose my temper in the street, and I often feel ashamed when i come to reason.

Answered: Feb 17


It is not always the case for me to feel ashamed when expressing anger. Given different scenarios, the situations in which I would be ashamed are when my reaction is not what I had hoped to present as expected under those circumstances. That is to say, I should not be angry in such a scenario and essentially lose control when things could be easily resolved with a rational approach.

Answered: Feb 16

If my anger hurt others, I will feel overwhelming ly ashamed.Otherwise, I won't.To feel angry is your legal right and it's sensible to embrace your feelings and release them in a proper way.

Answered: Feb 16

Yes, I regret shouting at my husband ever and even thrown some mug away down to the ground when he said some just words. I realized that was not a positive way to deal with some contradiction.

Answered: Feb 14

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Eric

I'm not completely ashamed when I'm angry. It depends on what I'm angry about. If there is a reason and some of my interests or others are damaged, I will not be ashamed to be angry, because it is someone else's fault and I have reason to be angry. On the other hand, if I am angry at a certain moment only by virtue of my own good or bad mood, I will not feel ashamed when I am in the mood, but I will feel ashamed when my mood or mood gradually fades away and feel sorry for my behavior.

Therefore, whether you are ashamed when you are angry or not, you can only look at the situation and other factors at that time.

Answered: Feb 14

Aileen Jia

For me, anger does sometimes evoke a sense of shame.

I recall an instance during a work meeting where everyone was engaged in a heated debate over a project proposal.

I was fully convinced that my plan was well - considered and practical. However, when I heard colleagues raise doubts and objections, a surge of anger welled up inside me like a broken dam.

I vehemently countered, my words becoming increasingly sharp, completely disregarding the setting and the feelings of others. At that moment, it was as if anger had blinded me, and all I could think about was proving that I was right.

Yet, as the meeting ended and the tide of anger gradually subsided, rationality returned to my mind, and a wave of shame engulfed me.

I began to reflect on my behavior, realizing how inappropriate it was to lose my temper so badly in the meeting. I not only disrupted the originally harmonious work atmosphere but also might have left a negative impression on my colleagues.

I felt ashamed of my impulsiveness and lack of emotional management skills, as if I had become a slave to my emotions, easily swayed by anger.

This sense of shame doesn't just stem from the impact on others; it also arises from an introspection of my own inner self. I am well - aware that anger is a normal emotion, and everyone gets angry at times.

But the key lies in how we handle this emotion. When I am unable to control my anger and let it run wild, I go against the principles of rationality and composure that I have always held dear in my heart.

I am ashamed of not being the master of my emotions and failing to maintain the proper demeanor and cultivation in the face of anger.
But I also understand that shame is not entirely a bad thing.

It acts like a mirror, allowing me to clearly see my shortcomings and areas that need improvement. Every time shame arises after an outburst of anger, it is an opportunity for growth.

It urges me to learn methods of emotional management and to cultivate patience and tolerance. I have started trying to take a few deep breaths and give myself some time to calm down when anger is about to erupt, expressing my opinions and feelings in a more rational way.

Of course, not every instance of anger leads to shame. Sometimes, when anger stems from upholding justice or fighting against unfairness, I actually feel a sense of tranquility and determination.

In such cases, anger becomes a force that drives me to strive for the rights that I or others deserve. I don't feel ashamed of this kind of anger because I know I am doing the right thing.

Anger and shame, these two seemingly contradictory emotions, intertwine in my life. Anger allows me to experience the intense fluctuations of emotions, while shame makes me reflect and grow after an angry episode.

They are both part of my inner world, jointly shaping my attitude towards life and my self - perception.

In the days to come, I hope to be better at harnessing my anger and using shame as a driving force for progress, facing the various challenges in life with a more mature and rational attitude.

Answered: April 16

MAKE

There is no doubt that being unreasonably angry with others is shameful. Nonetheless, if someone provoke  us  in a  bad manner,in my own opinion,expressing your anger is certainly a reasonable and appropriate way to protect yourself, which could sometimes benefit both your emotion and relationship in some degree.That's my glance from a corner.

Answered: Feb 11

DrGAO

Yes

Answered: Feb 17

Freedom

I think everyone will face some unhappy things when they are angry, and there is no need to feel ashamed. This is a normal emotional release for humans. Being angry can relieve people's stress. Being happy and joyful is something that everyone must experience. But people should still be happier, not always angry. Being happy at a young age can make people live longer. If one loves to be angry every day, their body will be unhealthy. Health is the greatest wealth of a person, so we should still be happier, less angry, and more happy.

Answered: Feb 13