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How to get rid of self-abasement?
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I truly understand the feeling of being shrouded in a sense of inferiority. That feeling of thinking you're not as good as others and not being able to hold your head up in a crowd is really unpleasant. But please believe that everyone has moments of self-doubt, and a sense of inferiority is not something that can't be overcome. We can start from the following aspects and gradually regain our confidence.

 
First of all, we should learn to face our own shortcomings and not be overly critical. Most of the time, our sense of inferiority stems from magnifying our flaws too much. For example, we may feel worthless because we don't have a perfect figure or our grades aren't ideal. However, no one is perfect, and everyone has their weaknesses. You can list your own shortcomings and then think: Are these shortcomings really that important? Is there a way to improve them? If it's something that can't be changed in the short term, like your appearance, try to accept it. If it's a skill that can be improved, like a certain ability, make a plan and improve it step by step. When you start to look at your shortcomings rationally instead of falling into self-denial, you've taken the first step towards getting rid of your inferiority complex.
 
Secondly, we should pay more attention to our own strengths and achievements. People with low self-esteem often tend to ignore their own shining points, thinking that their "advantages" are not worth mentioning. In fact, your kindness, carefulness, perseverance, or the things you've accomplished by overcoming difficulties are all things to be proud of. You might as well prepare a small notebook and record the things you do well every day. It could be as simple as bringing a cup of coffee for a colleague or finishing your homework on time. Little by little, when you look through these records, you'll find that there are so many things about yourself that are worthy of affirmation, and your confidence will gradually be built up.
 
In interpersonal relationships, don't always feel that you're "inferior to others". Many people with low self-esteem are afraid to communicate with others, worrying about being laughed at or rejected. But in fact, most people are more focused on themselves and won't be as critical of others as we imagine. Take the initiative to communicate with others and try to express your thoughts and feelings. You may be nervous or scared at first, but as you communicate more, you'll find that you can get along with others normally and even make like-minded friends. Moreover, during the process of interacting with others, you can also get to know yourself more objectively through their feedback and further discover your own value.
 
In addition, continuous learning and growth are effective ways to boost your confidence. When you master new knowledge and skills, such as learning a foreign language or a sport, you'll gain a sense of accomplishment and be more confident in your abilities. You can make a study plan according to your interests and needs and make progress little by little every day. As your abilities improve, you'll find that you can handle many things with ease, and your sense of inferiority will gradually be replaced by confidence.
 
There is also a very important point: don't blindly compare yourself with others. We live in a world full of comparisons, but everyone has a different growth environment and life trajectory. Blind comparison will only make you fall into anxiety and a sense of inferiority. Others' success doesn't mean your failure. You have your own rhythm and path. Focus on your own goals and life. Compare yourself today with yourself yesterday. As long as there is progress, it's something to be happy about.
 
Finally, if your sense of inferiority has seriously affected your life and emotions, don't bear it alone. You can seek the support of your family and friends or consider consulting a professional psychologist. They can help you analyze the problem from a more professional perspective, find the root cause, and accompany you to get out of the predicament of inferiority.
 
Getting rid of a sense of inferiority is a process that requires time and patience. Don't get discouraged if you don't see obvious changes in the short term. Every brave attempt and every small step forward is bringing you closer to the confident version of yourself. Believe in yourself. You are much better than you think. As long as you're willing to take the steps to change, you will surely embrace a life full of confidence.

Answered: May 07

You are unique and irreplaceable. Believe in yourself, and you can do something others can't do so well. Don't be afraid. You brave enough to face some weaknesses will give you some opportunities to repair them in time. Come on!

Answered: Sept 01, 2022

When you feel stuck in a self-imposed "basement" of negative emotions or low self-esteem, start by challenging those negative thoughts. Replace self-criticism with positive affirmations. Set small, achievable goals to gradually rebuild your confidence. Engage in activities you enjoy or try new things to boost your sense of self-worth. Surround yourself with supportive people, and practice self-care through regular exercise, proper sleep, and healthy eating. Over time, these steps can help you climb out of that mental basement.681ea554e4b08b4fca14f9c7.jpg


Answered: May 10

firstly offer you doing with that being able to see if we don't have any idea who is going through some things are not the same thing with me but I'm gonna take the kids were going back home from school days matter with your life for this to ten count as long time since then why don't know how much do we know the difference is that you could just tell them they will never forget it doesn't make any sense for your loss

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I truly understand the feeling of being shrouded in a sense of inferiority. That feeling of thinking you're not as good as others and not being able to hold your head up in a crowd is really unpleasant. But please believe that everyone has moments of self-doubt, and a sense of inferiority is not something that can't be overcome. We can start from the following aspects and gradually regain our confidence.

 
First of all, we should learn to face our own shortcomings and not be overly critical. Most of the time, our sense of inferiority stems from magnifying our flaws too much. For example, we may feel worthless because we don't have a perfect figure or our grades aren't ideal. However, no one is perfect, and everyone has their weaknesses. You can list your own shortcomings and then think: Are these shortcomings really that important? Is there a way to improve them? If it's something that can't be changed in the short term, like your appearance, try to accept it. If it's a skill that can be improved, like a certain ability, make a plan and improve it step by step. When you start to look at your shortcomings rationally instead of falling into self-denial, you've taken the first step towards getting rid of your inferiority complex.
 
Secondly, we should pay more attention to our own strengths and achievements. People with low self-esteem often tend to ignore their own shining points, thinking that their "advantages" are not worth mentioning. In fact, your kindness, carefulness, perseverance, or the things you've accomplished by overcoming difficulties are all things to be proud of. You might as well prepare a small notebook and record the things you do well every day. It could be as simple as bringing a cup of coffee for a colleague or finishing your homework on time. Little by little, when you look through these records, you'll find that there are so many things about yourself that are worthy of affirmation, and your confidence will gradually be built up.
 
In interpersonal relationships, don't always feel that you're "inferior to others". Many people with low self-esteem are afraid to communicate with others, worrying about being laughed at or rejected. But in fact, most people are more focused on themselves and won't be as critical of others as we imagine. Take the initiative to communicate with others and try to express your thoughts and feelings. You may be nervous or scared at first, but as you communicate more, you'll find that you can get along with others normally and even make like-minded friends. Moreover, during the process of interacting with others, you can also get to know yourself more objectively through their feedback and further discover your own value.
 
In addition, continuous learning and growth are effective ways to boost your confidence. When you master new knowledge and skills, such as learning a foreign language or a sport, you'll gain a sense of accomplishment and be more confident in your abilities. You can make a study plan according to your interests and needs and make progress little by little every day. As your abilities improve, you'll find that you can handle many things with ease, and your sense of inferiority will gradually be replaced by confidence.
 
There is also a very important point: don't blindly compare yourself with others. We live in a world full of comparisons, but everyone has a different growth environment and life trajectory. Blind comparison will only make you fall into anxiety and a sense of inferiority. Others' success doesn't mean your failure. You have your own rhythm and path. Focus on your own goals and life. Compare yourself today with yourself yesterday. As long as there is progress, it's something to be happy about.
 
Finally, if your sense of inferiority has seriously affected your life and emotions, don't bear it alone. You can seek the support of your family and friends or consider consulting a professional psychologist. They can help you analyze the problem from a more professional perspective, find the root cause, and accompany you to get out of the predicament of inferiority.
 
Getting rid of a sense of inferiority is a process that requires time and patience. Don't get discouraged if you don't see obvious changes in the short term. Every brave attempt and every small step forward is bringing you closer to the confident version of yourself. Believe in yourself. You are much better than you think. As long as you're willing to take the steps to change, you will surely embrace a life full of confidence.

Answered: May 07

North Star

You are unique and irreplaceable. Believe in yourself, and you can do something others can't do so well. Don't be afraid. You brave enough to face some weaknesses will give you some opportunities to repair them in time. Come on!

Answered: Sept 01, 2022

Jason

When you feel stuck in a self-imposed "basement" of negative emotions or low self-esteem, start by challenging those negative thoughts. Replace self-criticism with positive affirmations. Set small, achievable goals to gradually rebuild your confidence. Engage in activities you enjoy or try new things to boost your sense of self-worth. Surround yourself with supportive people, and practice self-care through regular exercise, proper sleep, and healthy eating. Over time, these steps can help you climb out of that mental basement.681ea554e4b08b4fca14f9c7.jpg


Answered: May 10

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firstly offer you doing with that being able to see if we don't have any idea who is going through some things are not the same thing with me but I'm gonna take the kids were going back home from school days matter with your life for this to ten count as long time since then why don't know how much do we know the difference is that you could just tell them they will never forget it doesn't make any sense for your loss

Answered: May 07

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