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How to face the people I hate or those have hurt me once?

Firstly, you should know not everyone will appreciate everything about you, including your appearence, personality, behaviour and stuff. There is always existing too much prejudice from others in our lives. Maybe it is the reason that others hurt you. On the one hand, you should face up to yourself. On the other hand, do not forgive those who hurt you badly once and remember the lessons they gave.

Secondly, you could normally try communicating with those you hate but cannot avoid. After all, human are social.And you cannot behave yout bad emotion obviously if you are an adult.

Finally, you should face up to them with a brave heart. There are always too many problems you have to think, face and solve. Don't let them waste your time. Fighting for what you want!

May 25, 2022, 20:03

To be honest, I think the person who hurt you will make you stronger than before. So you need to keep healthy, read more books to equip your brain with knowledge. Day and day you will become stronger and stronger. And time will tell everything.

May 26, 2022, 10:14

It is an accepted fact that there must be someone who you hate and hurt you, even sometimes the person you don't know, but you hate him.

I have two suggestions for you.

For one thing, do not immersed in self-doubtness and disppointment with yourself. Interrogate yourself ,find your own shortage and become better. It is the right way to face with such bad things.

For another, accept the fact and keep yousrself courteous with others. But if someone hurt you, you should also be rational and handle the contradiction objectively. I know it is really easy to say, but is hard to achieve. Try your best and after experiencing, you will be more better.

May 30, 2022, 20:07

I think that if a person hurts you once, it depends on the degree. If you feel bad, consider whether to break up with this person or not. If you think it's okay. Then you can choose to talk to each other and consider many aspects.

May 30, 2022, 00:03

Master Han Shan once ask Master Shi De: if someone are libeling at me, bullying at me, humiliating at me, Mocking at me, embarrassing at me, Fuck with me, Disgusting at me, lying to me, how do I do?

Shi De said: if only you could just bearing him, give him, let him, avoid him, smiling at, respecting at, ignoring at, take it easy by the time then you will see.

寒山问拾得曰:世间有人谤我、欺我、辱我、笑我、轻我、贱我、恶我、骗我、如何处治乎?拾得曰:只要忍他、让他、由他、避他、耐他、敬他、不要理他,再待几年你且看他。

 

Jun 15, 2022, 09:06

If you meet a people you don't like, you should make yourself opening. You can encourage yourself to find her or his advantages.

Then convince yourself, you can say a ton of praise to her or his, whether it's true or not. Nobody doesn't like praise, he or she will relize the change of your attitude.

She or he will also says praise to you, paople are always sensitive, you will feel it as soon as fast. There is no better that find your enemy praise you. I think you will feel better if you do this.

That's all.

May 30, 2022, 20:03

Just be yourself. Try to don't care others. I know it say easy but do difficult. How about reduce the time and place you with her.

Jun 20, 2022, 22:46

Go away.

Jun 16, 2022, 10:12

Just smile to him.

You hate him or he hurt you, just you can't tolerate him at that period. When you grow up more, you will find everything is ok. The world is so big, we know each other is destiny. And we will put our time into our interests and deserve.

Jun 15, 2022, 08:58

Just ignore. Do not care about he or she, you just do your own thing, and do your best. Then you will not to caring it.

Jun 12, 2022, 11:23

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