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What's the difference between a long-term relationship and a marriage?
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Most societies and cultures have a different understanding of what exactly is a marriage, who is allowed to marry, and what differentiates from a long-term relationship. However, depending on the country, there are often legal differences between the two. In most countries, marriage is a legally registered partnership which carries certain legal implications. These can for example extend to certain tax benefits or even have an impact on a person's citizenship status, etc. For many, there is also a cultural or religious dimension to marriage, such as a vow of faith in front of a religious authority with the aim of receiving blessing for their partnership by a higher power or god, or signaling society that two people will spend their life together or form a family through a certain ceremony or ritual (wedding), which gives their partnership a certain layer of societal legitimization. However, in some societies, living together, being faithful to each other or forming a family do not always necessitate or include being married, since some people reject or do not identify with the customs and values associated with marriage, or are not legally allowed to marry (such as homosexual partnerships in certain countries, etc.).

Oct 04, 2019, 09:24

There's really no difference in the essence because marriage itself is a long-term relationship and can be 'celebrated' anyway, what matters most is the people involved and the love they have for each other.

Nov 28, 2019, 19:06

Marriage is recognised and protected by law,but longterm relationship is not.,that's the biggest difference.

Mar 20, 2020, 19:30

this is the difference between freedom and belief.

Mar 23, 2020, 23:05

Compared to a long-term relationship,marriage contains more things. In most conditions, a relationship can be about only two people, but when it comes to marriage, few can limit it within two people because a couple have their own former family and they may have baby later, which means there is responsibility in this special relationship–marriage. Besides, we can build up a long-term relationship for various reasons, such as interests or work, while all aspects in life are involved in marriage. Consequently, there may be more problems need to be solved.

Mar 20, 2020, 23:03

I'm in a relationship with my partner of 10 years. You may ask why we don't get married, and the reason is neither of us wants to, or to be specific, we don't need to get married. For us, marriage is nothing more than a legal contract. It does not anything to improve the relationship.

Oct 29, 2019, 00:05

In the end, every long-term relationship should lead to marriage, or at least aim to do so. The goal for every partnership is to start a family and raise children, and this goes for every culture and religion on earth. In this sense, marriage represents a symbolic commitment to a life long bond of a couple and their plan to start a family, and therefore the next step in their relationship.

Nov 10, 2019, 05:20

There is a big difference. It is called both commitment and level of responsibility. In Sweden, many years ago, they thought they had a solution to divorce by encouraging couples to live together before getting married. Thinking they were the same thing, they assumed they were testing the likelihood of a successful marriage. Did not work, thereby debunking assumption. Does this disparage marrige? No, just shows that  living together and marriage are quite different. 

Sept 14, 2020, 05:14

In my opinion, long-term relationship that means romance. As we all know, romance just like a nascent flower which is stunning and enthusiastic. And if you are falling in love with someone, then even take to each other, your memory about long term relationship will be everlasting and ingrained forever. 

However, marriage that is defined as responsibility and obligation. Once you choose to go walk the aisle or tie the knot with somebody, you should take the responsibility. No matter who you are, man or woman, you must hold the accountability. Maybe it just like a strangle that limit your freedom. 

Therefore, I suggest that we youngers do not get married too early. You should be more reasonable and rational, which it is time that should tie the knot. 

Sept 13, 2020, 21:32


Aug 31, 2020, 12:21

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