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Will you share your pain and fears with your parents?
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I grow up with my grandparents, so I'm not very close to my parents.
They always complain about that I am somewhat like a stranger. I don't know why they never think about the things they've done.
I know they also live a hard life,sometimes they may feel life is hard. But love towards family needs time to cultivate. They've never devout to that, so I don't have feeling to share things with them.

Sept 21, 2020, 19:46

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Actually, at the beginning of some new period, like participating into the career or entering the university, I will tell my parents most thing, including good and bad news, and my improvements of course.

Because I think it’s important for them to prove that we really need them wherever and whenever we are, they enjoy the feeling that being needed by us.

However, it won't happen after a year, I will solve most problems on my own, and share more pleasant experience with my parents, cuz I mainly want them to know that I have grown up, they don't have to worry about me.

They really need time to adapt their children growing up to maturity, and take pride with us.

All in all, considering more for them, do anything they like!

Sept 20, 2020, 17:44

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I will not tell them. There is a large generation gap between my parents and me. When I talk to my parents about some painful things, they cannot understand. I've tried, but it didn't work, so I would rather choose to share my pain with my friends instead of my parents.

Dec 05, 2019, 01:43

I have been independent since childhood and I am used to solving and digesting a lot of things by myself. For me, telling them my pain or fears cannot solve the problem, instead, it will make them more worried.

Oct 10, 2019, 00:27

It depends. If it is pain from illness, only in serious cases will I tell my parents, hoping they will help me. If it's psychological pain or the fears caused by stress, I will not tell them.

Dec 14, 2019, 02:51

No! I the past, I talk about every obstacle with my parents, because i can reduce my pain by doing this. But, i don't say every bad thing to they now, it not only make them so worried, but also these things can't be solved. Some difficulties is my inevitable things, i believe that i can overcome and beat it, then i can become better me!!! We can come ture all our dreams after so many tribulations.

Mar 21, 2020, 20:13

If it was me four years ago, I would tell my parents. But after studying in a place very far from my home alone for four years, now, I will try to solve any problems by myself unless I try my best ,finding that the pain is beyond my affordability. Four years independence makes me grow a lot and know how to confront and defeat pain and fears. In most cases, telling my parents my pain can only arouse their worry, while the problems themselves can't be solved. Not only that, my suggestions and support gradually become a more and more powerful strength to help my parents deal with their problems while my comforts are usually a good remedy to erase their pain and fears.

Mar 21, 2020, 12:25

I will not.Because my mother will turned small into big.She is always worried abouty mark,health,and also my mood.I donot want her be worriwd.May I will tell the thing to my best friens.But in fact I hanv not been sad or fallen into bad condition because I was always happy.Thanks.

Mar 21, 2020, 11:22

Yes. As I think my parents will be more assured if i was open to them. They may exaggerate your pain or suspect the worst case when you refused to utter your heart.

Mar 23, 2020, 23:02

I will definitely tell them my pain or suffering as I think telling someone those bad feelings can relieve my pain and I could get comfort from them. Of course,sometimes I don't want to tell them all the bad things and want to digest them by myself,but I think it's imperative to tell them your state when you feel very stressful. Telling others you feel not good doesn't indicate you are weak,on the contrary,it shows that you are mature and strengthens your relationship with them.

Mar 21, 2020, 20:32

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