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Will you share your pain and fears with your parents?
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I don't will. I am a college student. I think I alreadly grow up and don't want they worried me. Maybe the thought is contacted with our family's environment.
After all, they are far from me. Called them my pain only enhance their sad.

Oct 16, 2020, 10:59

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It's happy to share my pain and glad with my parents, but it's impossible from Both of them have passed away.

The life is short and the years with our parents are short too. Don't say that there is generation gap between you and your parents, don't say that there are something different to halt your discussion, just make efforts to solve it, just make more opportunities to share your stories with them. 

Years flies so fast and our parents will be old and someday they will leave us, so don't hesitate to slow your step, strive to say something as much as possible to your parents. You should know it's happy to share something with your parents, it's regret that someday we will lose our parents and have no opportunities to share our stories with them.

Nov 01, 2020, 11:02

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Sometimes. Parents do have more experience than me, though they truly couldn't understand some of my thoughts.

Oct 14, 2020, 23:38

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Definately not. Becaus they will not understand the satuation what are you encounter.

Second it's quite hard to figure out whether your friends are really care about you.maybe they just pretend to be your friends and they are not really concern about you in your daily life.

Thirdly, your friends may cannot give you a hand. In contrast, they will hit you when you are down. What's more, tell your friends also will make them warry about you.

All in all, if you have the true friends. Without hesitation, you can share your difficulties with your friends.

Nov 12, 2020, 17:28

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Actually, at the beginning of some new period, like participating into the career or entering the university, I will tell my parents most thing, including good and bad news, and my improvements of course.

Because I think it’s important for them to prove that we really need them wherever and whenever we are, they enjoy the feeling that being needed by us.

However, it won't happen after a year, I will solve most problems on my own, and share more pleasant experience with my parents, cuz I mainly want them to know that I have grown up, they don't have to worry about me.

They really need time to adapt their children growing up to maturity, and take pride with us.

All in all, considering more for them, do anything they like!

Sept 20, 2020, 17:44

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The answer is certain. yes! I don't know why I always want to talk to my parents about myself. I think maybe there are three reasons. 

Firstly, my parents both have the habit of listening carefully, and I think it's a fundation of human communication.

Secondly, my parents respect any other's opinions, in particular, friends as me. We have never interrupted each other when one is talking.

Thirdly,we are honest with each other, whether when we make mistakes or when there are other bad things.

Just always remember one thing that respect is a foundation of everything. Hope you can find your point.

Nov 05, 2020, 09:54

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I will not tell them. There is a large generation gap between my parents and me. When I talk to my parents about some painful things, they cannot understand. I've tried, but it didn't work, so I would rather choose to share my pain with my friends instead of my parents.

Dec 05, 2019, 01:43

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I grow up with my grandparents, so I'm not very close to my parents.
They always complain about that I am somewhat like a stranger. I don't know why they never think about the things they've done.
I know they also live a hard life,sometimes they may feel life is hard. But love towards family needs time to cultivate. They've never devout to that, so I don't have feeling to share things with them.

Sept 21, 2020, 19:46

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For myself, I will tell them. If something really bad happen to my body,I will tell them the truth when it is decided. I really don't want them to worry about me but I need to let them know the situation I am in, to prevent my sudden leave giving them too much shocking. 
If some pressure makes me really unhappy, I will tell them too because it is a kind of way to ease myself and it is also a way to strengthen our relationship cause I'm a student studying far from home and my connection with parents is crashed by time and distance. Maybe they can't solve my problem, but by talking to them I can be comforted and them can sense that they are still playing an important role in my life. 

Oct 04, 2020, 21:16

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I think it should be up to your age, when I was young I always thought like that my parents are so annoying that I cannot have my own consideration, sometimes, I act on my own. During i grow up, i  find that sharing my negative feeling to someone is not a bad or ashamed thing, there definitely will be some situation we are in which we can't get rid of or deal with by ourselves, that's why the psychologist exist, your parents will always be your first tutor which guide you to a right path. Bad emotion needs to explosively release in a correct way.

Nov 08, 2020, 20:29

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