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What do you think about that the boy are not manly enough?

As we can see, the education ministry strengthens the importance of boys’ sufficient masculinity with the measures raising the weighting of PE class in the "double reduction" policy. Many hold that not being manly enough is a problem, and even a mental health problem. But I think those "wimp guys" should not be stigmatized.

Consider this scenario: when a robber suddenly appears on the street, a strong man slips away while a "wimp boy" steps out to confront the robber. Who do you think is more of a man?

First and foremost, manly or not is often not a personal choice (let alone be deemed as a mental health problem by some people). Nevertheless, those boys often suffer disparaging remarks and tricks, for example, being stumbled upon by manly boys in school. That is not fair because the characteristics are often innate, partly by nurture and partly by nature, which means they cannot decide how they should act in many cases.

Secondly, the mockery of them is commonly dismissed by the teachers, inducing them to be more vulnerable to ridicule. In effect, this ignorance and stigmatization are just discrimination towards those minority groups, revealing a society lacking tolerance.

To summarize, what we lack is not more manly boys but an understanding environment towards them and common sense for a perspective on the good nature of humans. If a man featuring muscle and masculinity is devoid of strong qualities, he will be laughed at as well. The becoming looks we insist on in men today may merely be regarded as labels that are out of date tomorrow.

It is not important whether a man is manly or not; what matters is the nature within him.

Sept 28, 2021, 20:43

To be honest, I like masculine boys/men more. I figure that many "idols" do make contributions to that circumstance, to some extent. To imitate those idols or something, some boys/men just act more feminiely.
However, everyone has every right to decide what to wear and how to behave.

Sept 23, 2021, 22:04

I think the main problem is not a boy dose not looks like a boy, I mean it is not just about appear or voice. The key point is that he should take responsibility for what he did. He cannot relay on his family or other people all the times. He cannot be spoiled. No one will care about him when he live in society. It is not about what clothes he wear or what kind of hair style he has. It is about the behaviour.

Oct 07, 2021, 05:42

Boys are those who are affected by the social environment. That is, we shouldn't blame them too much. If you want a boy to perform more majestic, please put more photos and videos that full of masculine things in front of him, he will naturally act like that. BUT, please do not scold them, as they are passive recipients. 

Oct 05, 2021, 08:11

Sex is different from gender.

Everyone should have choice to be what they want to be 

Some good moral character is not only male's. It's belong to All mankind.

So…it's not necessary even useful to emphasize a boy should be masculine!

I guess this propose may have more negative impact…just like school violence. Some kids will abuse a boy who is not masculine. It's dreadful!

Oct 06, 2021, 18:14

It is well known to us that everything has two sides, the tendency of "Wimp guys" may be not what we thought, the World is a tolerant community, sometimes we should take a fair view to those person.

Oct 06, 2021, 16:33

"A boy must behave manly, a girl must be  soft" , which is a convention limiting a nice person.

Oct 23, 2021, 15:43

I think we should focus more on those boys' nature and morality, some just appear to be feminine physically, but they still share good qualities and are good man in nature. What we should ban is those who try to use the feminine features to attract young people and make profits from it.

Oct 20, 2021, 09:55

PE Class is needed for sure.

Oct 19, 2021, 06:40

I think his behavior isn't similar with women.

Oct 14, 2021, 15:54

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